After a 7 year relationship since school, me and my digital bae Facebook decided to take a break and see other people for a year. It’s cool, no need for the scented candles and that midget size Ferrer Roche starter pack, we left it on good terms. .
It was pretty unhealthy if i’m honest, she was a bit of a control freak. I would have to see her like everyday!! Then when we did hang out, she would just talk about obscure high school friends that recently passed their driving theory test or finished Manchester Met with a 2:1, it was weird. We decided to take a break, this is what happened.
1) I realized I didn’t actually need many friends
It was intriguing to see what relationships would stick and which ones were just for the internet. No prizes for guessing that their was a big drop off.. (Genuinely, will try and get prizes for next time) To be honest I realized people don’t really need that many friends, just good ones. 5 rich relationships is way better than a hundred skint ones on benefits.
2) Less noise
Not scrolling through a million other voices each day helped me to actually think and have less mental real estate clogging me up. I could focus more without being constantly distracted with invites to my 2nd cousin’s latest Deathcore band gig.
(Side note: The Black Dark Death are playing London soon, tickets available via website)
3) I stopped comparing my behind the scenes with people’s highlight reel
Facebook only really shows everyone’s highlights, it’s our very own Match of the Day, just with less completed pass statistics. Someone said (Not me, probably one of them la la spiritual woozies) ‘Stop comparing your behind the scenes to other people’s highlight reel.’ Comparison usually offers nothing, it rarely adds or helps. Sort of like that fatty in the school football team who’s only there because his Dad’s on the PTA board.
4) I Became more present
‘Being present’ has made it into that ‘ Talking Christian/Spiritual for dummies’ phrase book now. It’s becoming the ‘one to watch’ of the buzz word community. Genuinely though, I found it nice when I could sit down with a friend and not have them push notifications being you know, all pushy. These days you are competing with a thousand options all at one time, all probably better than your mate talking about her swollen verruca, but you get better returns on things when you fully invest. (Carol you should get that thing checked out.)
5) Less scared of missing out
The final inspirational motivational point is that I just basically became less bothered. I didn’t care if I wasn’t invited to the cool gathering, I didn’t care if I missed the hip industry party. (Customer Service assistants throw the best ones!) I just didn’t care. I just became more at home in my own. (If that even makes sense.) I did miss a girl 2 years below me at school’s Zumba launch party. Only a handful of regrets, that has to be one of them..
Me and FB did eventually get back together.. This time on different terms. I don’t let her control me like she used too. Anybody else who is with her (I know she gets around ALOT) I advise taking a break for a bit, maybe even call it quits for good.
P.S Facebook make it so hard to actually fully delete your account! I suggest hiring a lawyer and be able to present a full CRB check completed in the last 5 years.